Words of Wisdom ---- Nourish your fear. Fear and desire are not opposites; they are the same. When I don't want to admit to myself what I want, I turn my desire into a fear so I can hold it close and keep it at a distance at the same time. What would your life be like if your fears came true ? .... "Your flashes and menstrual irregularities disrupt your normal patterns, make openings for your buried fears to emerge. Welcome these fears; they bring memories. Memories of childhood, memories of other lives. Often these memories find easiest access to your consciousness through fear. If you reject your fear, it will immobilize you , shorten your breath, leave you speechless, and dim your full delight in life. Approach with curiosity; let your fear bring you gifts of self-awareness. ( Note how dilated the pupils become in fear: anxious eyes take in everything.) Hold my hand. Say " I am afraid." And take a step forward............. excerpt from Susan S. Weed Menopausal Year -- The Wise Woman Way